I went to a lot of shows with my friends. Concerts, plays and I almost always drove. I had a car and I liked to drive. And I had a bunch of lame friends who had cars but didn't want to "put the miles on it." Anyways, I drove.
We'd find a show, ask enough people to fill the car and off we'd go. This one time, at the end of senior year, we were going to a show. I can't even remember which one. I asked my friend Matt if he wanted to come with us. He did and he bought a ticket. Apparently more people were invited than could fit in my car so I told Matt he'd have to find his own ride. He got angry, appropriately. I countered with I asked you if you wanted to see the show, I didn't say that you could ride with us. What an asshole and ridiculous response. Of course he was right in assuming that he'd be riding with us, that's how it always worked.
That was the end of our friendship.
We are now friends on facebook, 15ish years later. I want so badly to apologize and tell him I was a complete asshole, but I've read that people don't want to be reminded of these things. That apologizing for something that happened in high school will make me feel better, but it is not necessarily what the other person wants, so I don't.
But I wish so badly that I hadn't done it in the first place.
Regrets like this have a way of really sticking with us. I have one or two things (rounding down) I wish I hadn't done as well and I recall them far too often.~May
ReplyDeleteApologize. Seriously. You know how when a friend is going through something and you want to call and say something, anything, but you don't. And 6 months later you wish you had? My friend who is estranged from me, didn't agree with my leaving my husband, to make a long story short we aren't friends anymore. A year later, her marriage ends. I didn't call. A few months later, her sister dies, heart attack, healthy woman mid 40's. I didn't call.
ReplyDeleteToday, 5 years later. I wish I called.
My life lesson? Now I call, I would rather sound like a complete dick than not call.
We don't always make sense when we're kids and in your defense you were backed into a corner. You might consider mentioning it, you never know...it could mean something.
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